Start Dating 30s

Dating 30s

Even though you haven’t dated before, you have had relationships with people in the form of family and friendships - and these have a lot in common.

When you’re at school or university, it feels like dating is the major thing on everyone’s minds. SO many of the conversations are centred around love, sex, and dating - no matter how ill-fated our exploits are at that age. The truth is though, not everyone is actually dating that young.

“Many people don’t start dating until they are in their 20s and 30s,” relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein tells .

Don’t take anything personally, nothing others do is because of you. However, misrepresentations happen, and often, especially via electronic communication.

First impressions are important, whether they are virtual or in person.

One of my friends, who didn’t have a relationship until a few months before her 30th birthday, stayed in that first horrible relationship for years. Well at that age, she told me, she thought it was her only chance. Lots of people start dating later— and there’s no reason to put up with a crap relationship just because you’re not 21 anymore.

So here’s what everyone in their 30s should know about dating.

The right person will come at the right time and for the right reasons. I have “rescued” a friend from a bad date, recently, and while wearing my “Spiritual Gangster” tank top. I personally have zero problem calling it when I see it (politely of course), but it’s taken me some solid practice to learn the art of the graceful exit.

Being overly responsive or attentive is a bad plan; the idea of “the chase” isn’t meant to be you cyberstalking and checking in every hour. Some things to remember: 1) take a cab if you can, use a ride sharing app if you really want to do it right, so you can “call” them slyly from under the table and then suddenly “voila!

Having spent a good year getting reacquainted with myself and my charming set of idiosyncrasies, I recognized the occasion calling for me to stop avoiding male attention and to start practicing the art of social bullshitting again. If it comes let it come, if it stays let it stay, if it goes, well, let it go. If he responds intermittently to you, then yeah, you’re not the only girl in his contact list. Taken from the mouths of our wise elders, “Don’t make someone a priority who treats you like an option.” Seriously.

Be grateful for the opportunities provided, in whatever form they come.

“The fact that you were single throughout your teens and 20s shows that you are confident and independent enough not to ‘need’ to be in a relationship.” Knowing how to be happy when you’re single is such a huge skill, so don’t trade that in for anything less than something really great.